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the times they are a-changin'
Is there any one quote or Bible verse that just made you change your whole perspective or something about the way you live?
Wow. I’ve read this question like 10 times because it’s really got me thinking.
Most the time quotes & Bible verses add to my understanding of something, and don’t entirely change my point of view on something so I’m trying to pinpoint when that has happened in my life.
Ah! I’ve got it! There was a quote that changed my whole perspective on love. I remember in high school thinking pretty frequently about love, and what it really was. I wanted a straight up definition of true love, and that’s not easy to find.
I just remember reading something that has opened my eyes since. I don’t know if it was this exact quote, but this gets across what it was-
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.”
It was the first time I ever realized that love was not just a giddy, butterflies in my stomach, I feel like I’m flying sort of feeling. Love is not a feeling. You are not always going to feel like loving someone. Love is choosing someone even when it’s hard, even when it’s hurt, even when it’s easier to run. Love is staying, love can be a choice. I had a ton of growing up to do in high school, and this was just one of many things that I needed to learn.